Finding Your Self By Losing Your Identity

Deni Van here! For those of you who don’t know me, I’m a spiritual teacher and transformation mentor.

The opportunity to give back just fills my heart and with so much energy and waves of emotions, I wanted to take some time and answer some questions that came up in our group- The Heartfelt Awakening Village.

One particular question came up today asking about Identification- specifically identifying with the body.  A lot of masters and teachers will talk about letting go of identity because our thoughts will go to the things that we THINK we are and away from who we really are.

The one thing I speak most often about is that we are 2 parts which create a whole. All of nature and physics show us that 2 things are required to make a whole. So as Human Beings we are also 2 parts- there’s the Human part of us- constant movement, constant change, never the same belongs to time.  And then there’s the Being, no movement, is nothing, expansive, stillness- everything comes from this- it’s nothing, and yet it’s the biggest, emptiest, most powerful part of you.

Sometimes it’s really difficult for the human mind to wrap itself around this perspective because the mind and thoughts are also part of this movement. The brain is a filter between our external and our internal world, since we are experiencing both worlds, there are 2 parts to become more and more aware of.

You really can’t put any words to what this experience is. I can only use metaphors or examples to what it is I’m trying to bring across. Once you find this, its very difficult to say “YES, this is it!” and then put what it is into words.
One example I love to use is the scale; the scale has 2 parts- the fulcrum and then the scales which are the moving parts. The moving part of the scale can equate to the body and the Human experience. The body is moving,  has a beginning, a duration of time and an end. The human body is moving and constantly changing. The part of you I want to guide you to is to the larger part of you. If you can sit and connect to this larger part of you, you clearly see the energetic movement part of you from the expansive space of stillness.

You may think your are your body, your thoughts, beliefs, experiences. I could say, I’m a mother, a wife, I am hurting, I could list a ton more things- this is all energetic movement, like the scales on the fulcrum!  I want to help you recognize that in reality you are NOT these things you identify with!

I like to call this space the kingdom of the heavens within. When you come to this larger part of you, you create space where you are not moving but your body, your experience and everything else is in movement. This is an internal journey, it has to be experienced.

You must shift your perception to this space. So when you can, take a few moments to get into this space. Sit down, feet flat on the floor, butt on the chair, spine is straight and then just let the belly completely relax. In order for this shift to happen is you must be completely relaxed in order to let go. This is why meditation is so important in a lot of practices to still the thoughts and movements. You have to calm and quiet yourself so that you can shift to this larger part of you.

While you’re sitting and your spine is straight, relax the face and just begin to notice everything that your body is doing or feeling. Notice your heart rate. Notice your breathing. You can even close your eyes and feel inside down to your feet- you’re very much aware of them, all the way up your legs. Become aware of what’s going on inside.

But then, also become aware of the space outside of you- maybe just a little bit off the surface of your skin. Become aware of that space and than make that space larger and larger! Over time as you become more relaxed, bring your awareness further from your body until you get to point you’re becoming aware of everything in the room. Your space, the light, the energy that you are is filling the room and you are aware of it.

You’ll become aware that your thoughts stop- You’re now perceiving from this larger part of you. Practice shifting into this space. When you make this shift from being in the Mind to the openness of the heart, you will see how the mind is limited. Our bodies are limited too. This space, that is my passion to help you find, has no limitations. The more you can sit and quiet yourself, the more you’re going to have to let go of all of your identities- including how you identify with your body!

Not only can you bring your awareness just off where your skin ends, when you close your eyes you can become aware of the space beyond your body- the room, the whole house, below the house, above the house. Spread your awareness out. When you do, you’re perceiving from this larger space and you begin to recognize all of your own identities. You begin to see “oh there’s the part of me that’s pretty reactive to things going on around me or things from my past”. This is where you can identify where you are.

I invite you to find this space of nothing but, you have to let go of any identity you hold on to. That means your body and beyond! It doesn’t mean, however, to ignore the body or don’t do anything for it. It doesn’t mean that at all. In fact your body becomes a sacred temple for your Being.

When you’ve identified with the body,  that means you believe that you are the body and that is WHO YOU ARE. Example- I am this gender, I am this body. Nothing more. However, if you believe that there is a part of you, or that there is something more that animates this material body, then you can make this shift to this larger part of you. See how the body itself has a beginning, is here for a duration of time, with a whole bunch of experience and then will have an end- whenever that may be.

Everything, including your body, really belongs to time! Time is moving, like the outside bands of a hurricane. You are a system just like a hurricane.  You are the movement but that means you are also the energy just the eye of that storm.  The eye is nothing but space yet is the driving power of the storm. The stronger the eye and the more centered and the more focused the eye is, the more powerful the hurricane. You are no different than what Nature shows us! As a Human Being, the Being is where your power is!

We’re so used to being connected to our bodies. It takes practice quieting the breath and relaxing the body. As you get quiet, you will notice the mind and the thoughts are going to try to distract you. It was a struggle with my mind for a period of time; I would be in this space but then it was like being whipped right back into the bands of the hurricane, whipped right back into the energetic movement and I was like “where did it go?! Why has this left me?!”

I discovered I was perceiving from the Human perspective. Yup, I was back in my Human. Within me are a ton of people. There’s someone with an opinion, there’s someone with judgments, somebody with preferences and a story and tons of reactions. I was completely back into the movement of the Human. Bumping into other beings who are also stuck in their Human and are reactive with their own opinions, beliefs and experiences. It’s pretty easy to get knocked out of your center!

I discovered that when you shift back into stillness- because you’re going to come out- take the time to get back to nothing! You CAN! It does take awareness in the beginning.

I want to hear about your stories, even if for just moment you discovered this space. When you discover this space- this is where the miracles happen. This space is your HEALING space!

Start out as a practice and quiet yourself and create some inner space. This vital nutrient  that will bring you guidance and flow. When you perceive from this space and chaos is happening around you, you see opportunities instead of being caught up in the chaos of everything and you can’t see the opportunities for what they are. When you slow yourself down and create a little bit of space- this is where your internal genius comes out; this is when change naturally happens.

This is when you’re going to see your depression and see your thoughts attacking you. You find “oh here’s a thought” and you can look at it, identify it and realize “That’s not me! I’m not giving my attention to it any more.” This is where the magic happens! This is where I want you to be!

Have you ever seen a picture of an iceberg? Where you can see just the top of the iceberg but when you are exposed to what’s underneath, this big giant iceberg connected to the whole ocean- this is like your Being! I want you to connect to the part of you that can’t be seen, it’s under the surface, the deeper part of you! This is where inspiration, inner peace and knowing is! When chaos is happening all around you, time begins to slow down because you’re not allowing yourself to be involved or caught up in the movements- you are only observing. You’re not caught up in the outcome of it, you’re just holding space. This is where power is and where the magic happens. This is where Healing begins!

I do this kind of energy work and meditations with clients 1:1 or in small groups, so if you’re interested in learning more or experiencing this connection to the larger part of you, you can contact me anytime! This is about you FINDING this space- this experience is felt in the heart- heartfelt! It is my passion and universal purpose to help you find this!

Thank you for allowing me to join your journey! I would like to extend a warm invitation for you to join us in The Heartfelt Awakening Village! We have some amazing things happening! We are currently starting an incredible study that has never been done before that quantifies a spiritual awakening process! To find out more come on over or schedule a call with me! Blessings!

 

Bridging the Spiritual and Physical Being

Hello light Beings! How is everyone?

Lately we have been talking about the different aspects of the Human in our Heartfelt Awakening Village on Facebook.  You’re welcome to check it out! First we started talking about the aspect of Spirit which is the biggest part of us.  Then we moved on to the body and coming into a relaxed state.  This week we have a meditation focusing on the bridge between the physical and nonphysical- the Breath.

My Name is Deni Van and I am a spirit, breath, body, mind coach and I have been doing this type of work for 30 years- I love, love, love this work!

I know that many of us are on this path come from various different backgrounds- cultures, religions, you name it.

What I find beautiful about meditation is that your spiritual or religious path doesn’t matter- there is no religion, there is no gender, there are no beliefs or thought.

The breath is the bridge between the nonphysical world that we are all desperately seeking within and the physical world that we’re experiencing right now. The breath work we do along with the meditation really helps connect with that very subtle space between all that is- and you- your body and everything else that comes with being Human.

Breath is the bridge to what we are looking for!

While you read this I invite you to sit up straight , strengthen through your spine but allow your belly to rest- both feet flat on the floor. Focus on your belly. Take the opportunity to relax your diaphragm. The diaphragm is a rare muscle in that it has its’ own nerve. So, while we work on breath, we don’t want to be holding tension there.

Now, I’m going to tell you something that goes completely against what society tells us.

You ALWAYS hear to take a nice deep breath in (……….)

And then to let it all out )……….(

When we take in this DEEP breath of air and then let it All go as a way to release, what we are doing is sending our body into homeostasis which is a term for a consistent state of seeking balance. We are putting ourselves out of wack instead of releasing like we thought we were.

What’s out of balance by this? Our Blood gases- the oxygen and Carbon Dioxide flowing through our veins.

I have been taught yoga from 2 different points of view- a modern fitness way of yoga versus the more traditional point of few.

In fitness yoga, they will tell you to take a nice deep breath and then let it all go because what you are letting go of, is all waste.  However, with the blood gases in our systems to exchange, we need C02 (our exhale, the waste we think we’re releasing) needs to remain at about 5%-7% in order to properly exchange.  That means how much air we take in and exhale is very important- the body will keep trying to maintain this balance.

When we’re taking in deep breaths like this, we are essentially breathing for more than one person. Kind of like chronic hyperventilation- you’re programming your lungs to breathe more than you need to all day long. How we breathe during the day effects how we breathe at night.  So Symptoms like sleep apnea or heavy snoring can absolutely tie into how we are breathing during the day.

In the more traditional teachings of yoga, when we are in our natural state of breathing you’ll notice, the body will be completely relaxed and you basically sip air. There’s a huge difference between the air we program ourselves to take versus the gentle inhale through the nose we’re meant to take.

Try taking a breath through your mouth.  It feels like a huge gulp- think of it like your telling your body to struggle for air. You would only breath like this if you were exercising, not really effective if you’re just trying to breath. It’s going to start to trigger your fight or flight response.

Now take a breath through your nose- it feels calming, natural, effortless. You’re taking in much less air- but you’re taking in more of what you need.

When we take in more than we need we release more than we need.  It can get exhausting!

So I want to focus on this because the breath is how we connect to our spiritual and physical being!

One way I like to practice breathe work I call Skimming. Many of us breath have a wide range of motion when we breathe- a rhythmic pattern of deep breathes in and out.  I want you to try something different.

Try taking a natural breath in…now let just a little bit out.

Take a tiny Breath in… and then exhale just a little bit. Take couple more breathes like this. “Skimming” off the amount of air we intake.

It seems counterintuitive but the breath underneath is building CO2 is our blood system. This increases oxygen! Oxygen in the muscles, the brain- our whole bodies!

So when we’re breathing in these huge breathes, we are actually starving our body of oxygen, it’s a chronic hyperventilation. Symptoms of this can include, needing to catch your breath, anxiety, the feeling if the need to do something and not knowing why, lack of the ability to concentrate or anxiety- and this is just during the day! At night you can also have not being able to fall into a deeper sleep, breathing issues, heavy snoring or even sleep apnea.

You can correct these issues by changing your breathing. Become aware of your breathing during the day and your bodies will natural start to shift- it’s kind of like a breathing diet! Breathe in less so we increase the gases in our bodies.

So relax, notice how the body only needs sips of air- relax into the pause between each breath. Let this pause grow. Don’t force you breath- just observe.  Little sips. Build the gases. Relax even more.

The C02 is actually the body’s natural muscle relaxer, when we have that sweet spot between 5-7% we just naturally relax, naturally lower our blood pressure, and naturally lower our stress levels. Continue to practice this! Now observe, how is your belly? Let it relax out. Are you clenching your jaws? Relax the face, relax the throat.  How are your shoulders? Relax them, gently draw them together and down away from you ears. Notice your whole body release.

Take time out of every day to just sit in this stillness of breathing to allow the gases to build and trigger your body into a state of relaxation- let everything go.

Alright- I’ve talked about this enough so are you ready to experience this? Tune into my group Heartfelt Awakening Village for a meditation on this breath work. While you’re there, check out the unit of Meditation Monday where we talk about the different aspect of self in a 4 part series- totally binge worthy. Thank you my friends!

If you’ve been on this journey for a while and it feels like you’re going in circles- it means you are. Literally! If you’re feeling stuck in the Human you’ve got to Awaken to the larger part of YOU!

Allow me to help you get started on a new perceptive that has the ability to rediscover and reconnect to what is already inside you you!

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